Friday, July 31, 2015

The visible side of sex

So, how’s your sex life? This is a question couples find difficult to answer straight and satisfactorily whenever they are either on the phone, or on skype or in my office for counselling or consultation. Most times, when I eventually get answers, they are more of a life threatening reply than expected. Many times, these answers make you develop a deep sense of pity for either the couple or one of the partners as only 14 per cent gives you favourable answers. Why do we still have so much sexual mix-up when knowledge is available all around us? Couples are not exposing themselves to the very visible side of sex. Satisfactory sex is still a mirage to many couples.
Human beings are creatures famously consumed by thoughts of sex, yet many couples remain remarkably confused about what great sex is and how to have it. So many couples are shadowed by self-doubt and clouded by myths and misconceptions. It’s not just about our mind-set, it is also about our readiness to change and also work on our sexual mechanics. Couples are mentally and physically hampered or hindered in many ways; they are impeded on their path to greater sexual pleasure. Can’t we all just have great sex? Of course, we can.
Beforehand, I would love to encourage couples not to be disorganised with anxiety or plagued by concerns during sex especially over their performance, nor worried about the worthiness of their physique during lovemaking. This is one of the greatest destroyers of great sex. Because even when you both did well sexually, I mean your wife literarily melted at your touch, you also boom and blossom like a horse rider, and both of you had a good climax but one of you still harbour a feeling of ‘I did not do well enough’ or the other fellow is suspicious of his or her partner’s under-performance: nursing the impression that you’re not getting it as often as everyone else, comparing your sexual satisfaction with the last conversation you heard while with your pals. This feeling will make you believe there is still something better whereas you are just doing great.
Secondly, great sex is actually in the eye of the beholder. For some couples, it might be the ability to produce fantabulous multiple orgasms in their partners. For other couples, it might mean being able to last for twenty to thirty minutes; for yet others, it might be the after effect of the blowjob that is still making your brain to spin. To others, it might be the fact that you were just closer to yourselves than you used to be, while to others, it is the ability for all the sensitive erotic organs (like the nipples, breasts, clitoris, tip of the penis and some others) in you shouting ‘yeah, I am put to maximum use, thank you’ and so on. In other words, being a great lover means becoming a great lover to your spouse first and then to yourself. Best sex is when a partner sees good sex from the eye of his or her spouse.
Does he or she think heavenly about kissing? Does he or she prioritise the act of good kissing and other orally administered forms of arousal? None of these should be underestimated; it’s a tool for communicating great sex to your spouse. Try it. Tell your spouse what you want. Ask what he or she likes. The truth of the matter is if you get to know yourself and your spouse, you’ll have a much more erotic and explosive moments in your sexual relationship.
A lot of wives are very responsive to a man’s voice during lovemaking. If a husband has verbal facility and can entice his wife through his voice, that can become a powerful part of his great sex tools.
Do not paint a distorted picture for another man, ask for something new you can take home if you happen to talk with your friend about sex. When men do talk, they often boast about their sexual prowess. They tend to exaggerate their exploits, painting distorted pictures of their sex lives to one another. A lot of men end up thinking that their sex life is missing something, that other men are having wild sex or more frequent satisfactory sex.
As much as you may share sexual ideas with others, do not compare your sex life with unhealthy pornographic display. Couples should not try to learn everything about sex from pornography. But a lot may be needful if the erotic films are very educative and informative. Pornography is populated by flawlessly formed women and men with imprinted art work abdomen and ‘out of this world’ endowments. Adult entertainment makes many husbands and wives wonder: why can’t I have a wife like this or why can’t my husband be just like this man? Beside the fact that real people are not always with perfect bodies, one of the most destructive myths of pornography is that it convinces so many couples that they are either frigid or lack good libido, whereas they are just perfect and very okay. They forget that pornography is self-selecting men and women who have been injected with killing artificial libido enhancing drugs. Some of the other fictions that pornography perpetuates are the idea that women are always primed and ready (but you and I know that in the real world, many wives do say ‘no’ to sex most times if not all the time); and pornography portrays that the same moves work on every partner. Same moves do not always work for everyone. One man’s food may be another man’s poison. There is a need to keep studying your spouse regularly. Another thing is that satisfying sex always culminates in orgasm. Many couple have never experienced orgasm and they are doing pretty well sexually. Pornography can inspire us to greater sexual exploration. But learning from it takes time to implement, so there is a need for partners to be patient with each other.
Focusing on pleasurable sensations has over the years helped many couples a lot. These are techniques ranging from eye-gazing to eye-caressing and synchronised breathing that help keep you in the moment and now because great sex happens in the present. It doesn’t happen in the future. This is also applicable to anxiety. When couples fix their mind on anxiety about their performance, they mess things up; if couples can just relax and don’t bother about how well they are going to perform sexually, this will open them up to better sex and they will have great sex all the time.
Lastly, couples are encouraged to make sure they are happy with one another as this helps them to be healthy. When a husband in particular is naturally happy, he gets instant ragging erection and a very hard steaming ejaculation. As the saying goes, the best measure of a man’s character is the company he keeps. But what about his sexual health? According to a recent research, the best measure of a man’s sexual performance is his erection. Good erection equates real man and great sex. A man’s overall health directly affects the quality of his erections. And if the promise of longer life isn’t enough to convince men to take care of themselves, the promise of harder erections might be.
Ironically, a husband’s sexual performance and the quest for great sex is still the greatest hook to get him to make some real healthy good life changes. This is because it has become hard to deny the importance of erections in men’s health. It is now clear that men with heart disease are more likely to develop erectile dysfunction (ED). Men with ED were 80% more likely to develop heart disease than men without ED — regardless of smoking, high blood pressure, diabetes, and weight. Men in their 40s who had ED had the most dramatic increase in heart disease risk. They were more than twice as likely to develop heart disease as men of the same age without ED. Men with moderate-to-severe ED were 65 per cent more likely to develop heart disease over a 10-year period compared with men who didn’t have ED.
If a blockage forms in the heart, it causes a heart attack; in the brain, it causes a stroke. What does that have to do with an erection? To get erect, the penis must become engorged with blood; and for that to happen, the endothelium must relax, allowing the arteries to widen and let blood flow into the penis. Arteries that lead to the penis are smaller than the arteries that lead to the brain or the heart. And most times, these arteries get blocked leading to ED. By definition, having ED means a man cannot get an erection hard enough for penetration or one that lasts long enough for him to reach orgasm. So to have great sex, make sure you are happy, avoid anger, worries anxiety and watch your health.
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
We hardly have time for sex
Funmi as much as my husband and I love to have sex, how can we handle the prevailing obstacles? We are both tired, our own kids are light sleepers, I am not happy with my weight, I am stressed out over deadline pressures at work. In short, there is no time.
Mrs Onoso Okuhebuchi
There are many reasons why couples find themselves reaching for the pillow or the remote control instead of their spouse’s body after the sun goes down. But a healthy sex life is a key part of an intimate relationship, and neglecting it can push the two of you further apart. Sex is so important to the overall health of your relationship. So, prioritising what’s important to the two of you is very important. But first of all, you have to rediscover each other without pressure, make out for space and time where you can escape and get creative, even if that time is in your house (or car, or backyard). Plan a quick trip to any nearby eatery for lunch during your afternoon break, make sure the venue is not too far from your office let it become a habit, and you’ll feel reconnected, and the desire will just grow from there or take a break for a romantic encounter so as to reconnect in a non-sexual way. Once you’re reconnected in this way, a quick sexual encounter may regain its excitement. Then find a practical way to spice up your sex life, try a different place, a different time, a different position, have a morning quickie. Try sex in the shower, or in the kitchen. Remember to clean up afterward.
I only give in to sex to keep the marriage
For me lately, I am not in the mood for sex and to cap it all, sex hurts and my husband is not cooperative at all. So for sometimes now, I have suffered in silence; giving in to sex just to keep the marriage.
Mrs. Budoju Obed
For many wives, not finding out their sexual trigger and pointing it out to their husband may be one major reason for lack of interest in sex. So kindly find your sex trigger. Then sometimes, it’s not that you’re not feeling in the mood, it’s that your body isn’t cooperating because sex may actually be painful. This can be a big issue for wives approaching menopause. It may be the sign of another health problem or behavioural issue. For example, anxiety and hormonal imbalances can all contribute to sexual dysfunction in women. In fact, not getting enough sleep diminishes female libido. As women age, oestrogens levels decrease and this affects a lot of organs, including the vagina. When vaginal tissues atrophy and thin out, losing some of its blood supply, intercourse becomes more painful. Some wives describe it as sandpaper. Vaginal oestrogens lubricants are very effective. There’s also the possibility that you may have a condition of the vagina or vulva that’s causing a problem, which is a key reason to check with your doctor should intercourse become painful. A dwindling libido may not just be a sign of aging, but no matter what the reason for your diminished desire, getting back on track with your husband sexually is going to take some effort. “Sex takes work and you have to focus on it just like everything in your relationship. There isn’t a magic pill.
Is erectile dysfunction hereditary?
For many years, my father suffered from erectile dysfunction to the point that my other entire siblings were fathered by his younger brother from an extended family. My father told me in secret that he inherited it from his father and believed that, it was better for his younger brother to father his children than for him to own up that he has impotency issue. I am in my early 20’s my question is that is this truly hereditary and what can I do not to repeat this?
The worried son
Well, impotency or erectile dysfunction is not hereditary. The things that could be hereditary are the causes of ED which could be hypertension, diabetes mellitus and some other cases, and if an individual from such linage observes a very good early healthy life style, the possibility of not repeating the same mistake is guaranteed. And for men with a diagnosed ED, one way to improve erectile dysfunction is to make some simple lifestyle changes. For some men, simply adopting a healthier lifestyle, such as quitting smoking, staying off artificial food items and drinks, reducing stress and exercising regularly may be all that is needed to find relief. Exercise regularly; this helps to strengthen the heart, builds energy level, lowers blood pressure, and improves muscle tone and strength. It strengthens and builds bones. To get the most benefit, you should exercise at least 20 to 30 minutes, preferably on most days of the week. For those who require more intensive treatment, adopting these lifestyle changes in addition to other treatments can further help. In fact, there are lots of natural herbs that help give this social killer a one off cure. Please contact me.
Lastly, do all you can to reduce stress. When stress persists, it can affect the body and illnesses can occur. The key to coping with stress is to identify stressors in your life and learn ways to direct it.
I’m never in sex mood
My husband tells me he often thinks about sex during the day, but I never do. I don’t think I’m a very sensual person. I like being close to my husband, and I almost never turn him down when he initiates sex. But truthfully, I’m never in the mood. Should I just accept the way I am, or is there something I can do to become “sexier”?
Shondu Abakaloc
Sometimes for some couples, there’s more to being sexy than erotic daydreams. For a wife to accept and enjoy her own sexual feelings in response to her husband’s advances is a wonderful expression of sexuality. Developing a level of trust and safety in the context of sexual play is another. That’s expressed in being naked and unashamed, wanting to give your body to your husband. Even the simple act of touching your husband affectionately is a sexy behaviour. However, if you don’t enjoy sex or are not usually orgasmic, your satisfaction level may increase by adding some sexual thoughts to your day. Thinking about your most romantic and sexually exciting experience just before your husband comes home can increase your level of responsivity. Most husbands want to feel needed sexually. Although you may never need your husband sexually as much as he needs you, your occasional initiation of sex can be rewarding in deepening your oneness. Do it as an act of the will, motivated by your desire to give love.
By   FUNMI AKINGBADE

Saturday, July 25, 2015

Questions and Answers on Marital Sexual Issues

Keloids getting on my nerves
I am a man that believes in marital fidelity but loves to enjoy sex to any extent with my wife. But I have a big problem at hand; my wife has lots of keloid formations all over her vagina area. This does not only irritate me but affects my libido. As soon as I site the ugly cluster of keloids, my erection just goes down. I have encouraged her to go for surgery but she refused. What best can I do? I am starving.
Sternly Jokohu
A keloid is a bump of scar tissue that grows past a wound’s bounds. It may keep growing weeks after the skin heals. It is more common in dark skinned women. Keloids can form anywhere, but often they’re on earlobes, shoulders, the upper back, chest, cheeks, tip of the vulva especially in women that have undergone episiotomy cutting during normal vaginal delivery. They’re not harmful to sex; they are just ugly if they are more than one. But if they become too big or itchy, this can be treated or surgically removed. Since she is scared of surgical removal, all you need to do is see a dermatologist for some hormonal steroid cream that will gradually remove them one after the other. Besides, she can also use natural home remedy cream like local shea-butter and aloe Vera plant. If she rubs these two items morning and night on them, they will gradually drop off, though it will take a while, it will definitely drop off.  
My husband battles impotence
“My husband does a stressful job and, he is having a problem with impotence. I wonder if that is having an effect on him. My husband is discouraged and I am also disturbed as well. I miss the intimacy of sex, and my husband is disappointed in himself just because he cannot perform.
Mrs. Maria Moringaf
Sex is an important area in marriage, so it is worth facing this situation head-on. Your husband needs not feel embarrassed or frustrated at all because help is within arm’s reach. Sometimes, his condition may just be pre-mature ejaculation or weak erection, not outright impotence. In addition, do not assume stress is causing your husband’s impotence; physical disorders such as diabetes mellitus, hypertension, or a hormonal imbalance are possibilities.
Various medications such as some antidepressants, antihypertensive, or diuretics, as well as excessive cigarette and alcohol consumption can also cause impotence. In majority of men, however, impotence is triggered by psychological factors—stress, fatigue or state of hopelessness. If that is the case, your husband will have to find healthy ways to reduce or cope with his stress. In the meantime, do not allow impotence to eliminate your physical connection. Remember the great Cialis called 36-hours-of-freedom is still doing wonders.
I had a terrible vaginal scar tissue and a damaged gland
I’m an ardent reader of your column (sex and sexuality) on the pages of Saturday Punch newspaper. Over the time, I have found most of the issues treated very educative, informative and enlightening. The fact that you always restrict and direct your topics to couples gladdens my heart the most. You may not know you are helping many marriages, even those who criticise your column being on the pages of newspapers are profiting from the invaluable points you make in the secret of their bedroom with their spouse. This is to encourage you to be focused and not get distracted, let the emphasis continue to be directed to couples and couples only. However, I have this question for you: few years ago, due to infections and a difficult childbirth experience, I had a terrible vaginal scar tissue and a damaged gland. As a result, sexual intercourse became very painful for me. Because of the pains, my husband would always release prematurely. However, long after I was cured, he cannot hold on his ejaculation for two minutes. I understand this is not his fault, and I also understand his need for regular sex, but his premature ejaculation is embarrassingly getting out of hand. I dread having sex, because it is so frustrating. My husband insists that if I love him, I will keep on enduring, but should I keep enduring it out of love? Resentment is growing between us.
Frustrated wife.
The idea of “enduring” sex for any reason could be distressing to some spouses. We human beings are created with such a marvelous ability for healing and I’m usually optimistic about the potential and probability for healing. Working through this type of problem can deepen your relationship. Expressing love to each other as you consider each other’s needs and difficulties can help you both to realise how important you are to each other. The key, again, is communicating openly, tenderly and unselfishly. When we work to meet one another’s needs, our love for each other expands and deepens. I hope you will use this difficulty to let that happen.

Questions and Answers on Marital Sexual Issues

Keloids getting on my nerves
I am a man that believes in marital fidelity but loves to enjoy sex to any extent with my wife. But I have a big problem at hand; my wife has lots of keloid formations all over her vagina area. This does not only irritate me but affects my libido. As soon as I site the ugly cluster of keloids, my erection just goes down. I have encouraged her to go for surgery but she refused. What best can I do? I am starving.
Sternly Jokohu
A keloid is a bump of scar tissue that grows past a wound’s bounds. It may keep growing weeks after the skin heals. It is more common in dark skinned women. Keloids can form anywhere, but often they’re on earlobes, shoulders, the upper back, chest, cheeks, tip of the vulva especially in women that have undergone episiotomy cutting during normal vaginal delivery. They’re not harmful to sex; they are just ugly if they are more than one. But if they become too big or itchy, this can be treated or surgically removed. Since she is scared of surgical removal, all you need to do is see a dermatologist for some hormonal steroid cream that will gradually remove them one after the other. Besides, she can also use natural home remedy cream like local shea-butter and aloe Vera plant. If she rubs these two items morning and night on them, they will gradually drop off, though it will take a while, it will definitely drop off.  
My husband battles impotence
“My husband does a stressful job and, he is having a problem with impotence. I wonder if that is having an effect on him. My husband is discouraged and I am also disturbed as well. I miss the intimacy of sex, and my husband is disappointed in himself just because he cannot perform.
Mrs. Maria Moringaf
Sex is an important area in marriage, so it is worth facing this situation head-on. Your husband needs not feel embarrassed or frustrated at all because help is within arm’s reach. Sometimes, his condition may just be pre-mature ejaculation or weak erection, not outright impotence. In addition, do not assume stress is causing your husband’s impotence; physical disorders such as diabetes mellitus, hypertension, or a hormonal imbalance are possibilities.
Various medications such as some antidepressants, antihypertensive, or diuretics, as well as excessive cigarette and alcohol consumption can also cause impotence. In majority of men, however, impotence is triggered by psychological factors—stress, fatigue or state of hopelessness. If that is the case, your husband will have to find healthy ways to reduce or cope with his stress. In the meantime, do not allow impotence to eliminate your physical connection. Remember the great Cialis called 36-hours-of-freedom is still doing wonders.
I had a terrible vaginal scar tissue and a damaged gland
I’m an ardent reader of your column (sex and sexuality) on the pages of Saturday Punch newspaper. Over the time, I have found most of the issues treated very educative, informative and enlightening. The fact that you always restrict and direct your topics to couples gladdens my heart the most. You may not know you are helping many marriages, even those who criticise your column being on the pages of newspapers are profiting from the invaluable points you make in the secret of their bedroom with their spouse. This is to encourage you to be focused and not get distracted, let the emphasis continue to be directed to couples and couples only. However, I have this question for you: few years ago, due to infections and a difficult childbirth experience, I had a terrible vaginal scar tissue and a damaged gland. As a result, sexual intercourse became very painful for me. Because of the pains, my husband would always release prematurely. However, long after I was cured, he cannot hold on his ejaculation for two minutes. I understand this is not his fault, and I also understand his need for regular sex, but his premature ejaculation is embarrassingly getting out of hand. I dread having sex, because it is so frustrating. My husband insists that if I love him, I will keep on enduring, but should I keep enduring it out of love? Resentment is growing between us.
Frustrated wife.
The idea of “enduring” sex for any reason could be distressing to some spouses. We human beings are created with such a marvelous ability for healing and I’m usually optimistic about the potential and probability for healing. Working through this type of problem can deepen your relationship. Expressing love to each other as you consider each other’s needs and difficulties can help you both to realise how important you are to each other. The key, again, is communicating openly, tenderly and unselfishly. When we work to meet one another’s needs, our love for each other expands and deepens. I hope you will use this difficulty to let that happen.

Best help for circumcised wives

A lot of married women have ignorantly and unconsciously turned their sincere and faithful husbands into guilty unhappy cheats; these men have [against their wish] broken their marriage vows over and again. Some have even accepted infidelity in their marriage as the only way out of their sexual frustration and dissatisfaction, while others have accepted their fate, all because their wives are brutally circumcised and sexually uncooperative. This category of wives are either not interested in sex, or do not know how or have the ability to sexually meet the needs of their men. They have a very low libido or they have never been aroused or ever experienced orgasm, or have given up on their sexuality all because of the negative effect of female circumcision, otherwise called female genital mutilation.
One of the major challenges I have come across in the past few years is the inability to help these women freely with the gift of sex and to really enjoy sexual relationship within their marriage despite the challenge of circumcision.
Circumcision or female genital mutilation became popularly accepted in the Dark Age in order to eradicate or reduce the level of female promiscuity. But oddly, it has been discovered that promiscuity is a matter of the heart. Until the heart of a man is occupied by right attitude and mindset, abolishing promiscuity can never be effective by physical infliction of pain or cuts.
From research and medical indications, circumcised wives hardly enjoy sex, they hardly get aroused, hardly experience any form of libido sensation or hype, are hardly interested in sex, they are mostly unable to sexually satisfy their men, they hardly have a normal delivery without either a tear or an episiotomy cut, during a normal vaginal delivery. These categories of women also mostly experience low sexual confidence due to the ugly picture of the site of the circumcision. However, a natural do-it-yourself home remedy exercise has been discovered called the long woman or the clitoral exercise that will put smile in the faces of many couples. Please, read and enjoy.
The clitoral exercise otherwise known as the long woman is an exercise to increase the length and girt of the clitoris for better libido and better couple’s sexual satisfaction. This procedure came into existence way back in the Victorian time and it is practised more in the African countries especially in Uganda. Because of the numerous advantages, it is now a procedure that has gone viral in the US, the Caribbean and Europe, and has now become accepted worldwide.
It is an exercise majorly recommended for upcoming teenagers [especially in Ugandan culture] already betrothed to a particular man when she is of age. This procedure is specifically carried out on the teenage girl for close to three years for her to be sexually equipped and trained in order to give sexual satisfaction to her man. To get the teenager set for the procedure, an elderly wife is assigned to teach and direct her. As soon as the clitoris reaches a substantial and significant length, the teenager is certified as a good wife to be and tagged with a new name ‘the long woman.’
The many benefits of this exercise have created an impactful transformation basically on the marriage union of many relationships, most especially on the wife and on the sexual relationship.
Clitoral exercise is the regular application of special oil called ‘Avangunin oil of life’ and daily rotational pulling out of the clitoris with the first and thumb finger coupled with the support of the second finger in both clockwise and anti-clockwise directions. The clitoris is placed in-between the first finger and the thumb while the second finger supports firmly the first finger. For best result, the rubbing should be done twice daily for 10 minutes each.
It is best done while the lady lies down with her knee pulled up and bent while a throw pillow is under her buttocks in an angle 45 degree. To prevent infection such as vaginal infection, yeast infection, vaginal itching and urinary tract infection, it is advisable for the pubic hair to be shaved a little bit above the location of the clitoris, the finger nails must be well trimmed and hands must be washed only with mild soap and also lubricated with Avangunin oil of life. This is a natural oil gotten from three different plants with natural chemical composition that works directly on the nerves of the clitoris, [the clitoris has almost same amount of nerves supply as the penis]. This oil also has some natural growth element and ability to heal any damage done during the time of rotation. It should also be noted that there should not be too much pressure on the clitoris so as to prevent bursting of the tender blood vessels and numbness.
The procedure is most appropriate for the following categories of people, ladies that have undergone various degrees of circumcisions. There are three types of circumcision; first, second and third degree circumcision. First degree circumcision is when the tip of the clitoris is cut off. Second degree circumcision is when the major part of the clitoris is cut off while the third degree is when the entire clitoris is cut off from the hood alongside with some part of the labia minora [the inner lip of the female vulva]. Females who have undergone episiotomy either lateral or bi-lateral cut during normal vaginal delivery and develop lots of scar formation leading to loss of sensual sensitivity during sex. Potential young wives aspiring to be the best sex partner of their husbands; women with low supply of female sex hormones.
Many couples have called in asking if the procedure has any advantage to the husbands. Yes, it does by providing a sexually sensitive and responsive wife, by reducing long frustrating foreplay for the husband, by reducing high level of clumsiness and stressful sex. The long clitoris has a way of rubbing off on the penis of the man during active thrusting in and out, thus creating a responsive libido triggering for the man. It increases female libido and level of female arousal. It also helps to compensate for the husband whose penis is small in size. The long clitoris usually assists the small penis to fully occupy the inside of the vagina [this is because some clitoris can be as long as the size of some small size penis]. It increases the sexual confidence of the new bride. It increases sexual libido during pregnancy and lactation. Basically, a nursing mother most times may not be sexually inspired to either ask for sex or notice the sexual desire in her husband, due to the fact that as long as she nurses her baby with breast milk, she will always produce a hormone called prolactin which is a form of natural family planning hormone. This hormone only helps the nursing mother to be more concerned about her baby than be sexually attractive or responsive to her husband. But when such lady has over the years developed a long clitoris, it is of an added advantage because the clitoris gets bigger during breastfeeding and this stimulates her sexual appetite compared to her contemporary who has not practised clitoral exercise. It also enhances good blowjob.
It increases and fast-forwards orgasm in all categories of women. It helps to naturally cure acute level of premature ejaculation, weak erection, and acute erectile dysfunction. This is because during sex, the clitoris increases in size and strength and actually erect and stands firm like the penis and the sensation the erect clitoris gives the penis helps to stimulate it and when there is active penile stimulation, there is free flow of blood to the base and shaft of the penis which helps to supply more oxygen and nutrient to the penis. When this is done on a frequent level, healing starts showing up gradually and before long, most men with poor erection, weak erection and poor performance always testify to the positive effect of the extra length of their wives’ clitoris. Note: it is not safe to use any other oil as this may not give you the result you so much desire.
Clitoral exercise can be practised by every woman of any age, at any stage. This is because it is a natural exercise with natural plant oil to help the clitoris grow to any capacity of growth. So why wait, start now.
Questions and Answers
Acupuncture and impotence, how effective
A friend of mine said he was completely cured of impotence when he underwent acupuncture. Please, does it really work?
Mr. Allen Owolabi
Actually, acupuncture is an age-old healing practice of traditional Chinese medicine in which thin needles are placed at specific points in the body. It’s primarily used to relieve pain but it is also used to treat other conditions. Acupuncture seeks to release the flow of the body’s vital energy or “chi” by stimulating points along 14 energy pathways. Scientists say the needles cause the body to release endorphins — natural painkillers — and may boost blood flow and change brain activity. Now, the only way acupuncture may have worked for that your friend is this; when there is good blood flow to the male organ, he must have done the acupuncture severally. However, some sceptics say acupuncture works only because people believe it will. However, I would suggest you could try it if it will help.
I want to make a confession
Dear Funmi, I want to make a confession and at the same time seek your advice on my issue. My problem is that I don’t get aroused around my wife any longer. For me to have an erection and even maintain it, it will take a lot of touching and blowing but most time, I don’t get up at all. I married a very beautiful woman with outstanding brilliance and behaviour but her boobs are just too small. The confession there is that I hit 100 per cent arousal anytime I see or touch any other female apart from my wife. For me to be certain, I even had two other secret lovers and mere thinking about them gets me aroused. But with my wife, it is an issue. I know having secret lovers is very wrong and I am gradually getting out of it but I think I am confused now, sometimes I will even think I have erectile dysfunction but if I am around any other lady, 10 -15 minutes and even sometime close to 30 minutes, I am still hard. We had a child and we have been trying to make another one but I am not just getting it up. The truth is I love her but I am not just feeling her, I see her nakedness everyday but I am not moved. I don’t even mind if there is a drug that can get me very aroused when I am with her. Please help me, I am so confused. You may publish my write up but please don’t put my name. I await your response. God will hold you and your family (Amen).
Anonymous
My dear sir, your mail was well understood but I have a set of questions for you; were you aware of your highest sexual trigger point before your marriage to your wife? Did you by any means ask her while you were dating if she was naturally endowed with big breasts or did she have a push up bra on 24/7? Were you so much in love with her and also attracted to her beauty and   outstanding brilliant qualities and behaviour that you ignored the fact that big breast keeps you going come rain or shine? If all your answers to these questions are in the positive, then I would suggest you make up your mind to live with your choice and either help her to increase the size of her breast naturally or buy her lots of invisible breast attachments. Lots of us are not all perfect physically but we can enhance ourselves. Besides, it has been researched that when couples grow together in the marriage union, they tend to live more like brothers and sisters rather than hot lovers with sexual sparks. You will have to work on your wife to help you bring more of sexual sparks back into your life than going out there to other women. I would also like to say that you also have to realise that you will be losing out greatly if you allow your sexual needs alone to define your marriage. Think on your investment in the marriage; think of the other outstanding qualities of the woman and also think of the destinies of your lovely children. As much as there is no substitute for good sex in marriage, I think when you make a marital choice you should also be responsible for your choices.
Could this be something else?
I have an alarming yeast infection that has lingered on for more than necessary. I have been to the hospital; I have even tried over the counter medications, but it’s just not working.
Ms comfort Ogirilu
Self-diagnosis is not always accurate. In fact, studies show that up to 50 per cent of women who think they have a yeast infection actually have another type of vaginitis. So, before you conclude it is a yeast infection, watch out for these pointers to help you decide what might be going on. Yeast infection symptoms include itching – Itching is the most common symptoms of a yeast infection. Sometimes the itching is so severe that you scratch until raw sores develop. Vaginal burning – Yeast can also cause vaginal irritation, burning and swelling, as well as pain with urination and sex. Occasionally, with severe infections, the entire vulva are bright red and swollen. Vaginal discharge – The vaginal discharge of a yeast infection is most typically thick, white and clumpsy, almost a ‘cottage cheese’ [locally produced wara] appearance, but some infections will be tricky and have a normal appearing discharge.
Please, do not mistake the following symptoms for a yeast infection: Foul vaginal odour – a strong vaginal odour is not a typical symptom of a yeast infection, but more likely to be bacterial vaginosis (BV), which is an overgrowth of abnormal bacteria instead of yeast. BV is more common than yeast infections and causes a grey thin discharge and a pungent fishy odour that is most prominent after intercourse. BV is easily treated with an antibiotic and doesn’t cause any long term health issues.
Vulva blisters/ulcerations – Genital herpes cause blisters and ulcers that can sometimes be confused with a yeast infection because both can cause a burning pain, swelling and irritation. Sadly, there is no cure for herpes, but there are antiviral pills available to treat the symptoms of the disease.
Frothy vaginal discharge – Discharge that is frothy and bubbly could be a sign of trichomonas, a common sexually transmitted disease (STD). Trichomonas is highly contagious, but luckily can be easily treated with antibiotics and doesn’t cause any long term health issues. All sexual partners must be treated with antibiotics as well, or you can get re-infected easily.
By FUNMI AKINGBADE

Best help for circumcised wives

A lot of married women have ignorantly and unconsciously turned their sincere and faithful husbands into guilty unhappy cheats; these men have [against their wish] broken their marriage vows over and again. Some have even accepted infidelity in their marriage as the only way out of their sexual frustration and dissatisfaction, while others have accepted their fate, all because their wives are brutally circumcised and sexually uncooperative. This category of wives are either not interested in sex, or do not know how or have the ability to sexually meet the needs of their men. They have a very low libido or they have never been aroused or ever experienced orgasm, or have given up on their sexuality all because of the negative effect of female circumcision, otherwise called female genital mutilation.
One of the major challenges I have come across in the past few years is the inability to help these women freely with the gift of sex and to really enjoy sexual relationship within their marriage despite the challenge of circumcision.
Circumcision or female genital mutilation became popularly accepted in the Dark Age in order to eradicate or reduce the level of female promiscuity. But oddly, it has been discovered that promiscuity is a matter of the heart. Until the heart of a man is occupied by right attitude and mindset, abolishing promiscuity can never be effective by physical infliction of pain or cuts.
From research and medical indications, circumcised wives hardly enjoy sex, they hardly get aroused, hardly experience any form of libido sensation or hype, are hardly interested in sex, they are mostly unable to sexually satisfy their men, they hardly have a normal delivery without either a tear or an episiotomy cut, during a normal vaginal delivery. These categories of women also mostly experience low sexual confidence due to the ugly picture of the site of the circumcision. However, a natural do-it-yourself home remedy exercise has been discovered called the long woman or the clitoral exercise that will put smile in the faces of many couples. Please, read and enjoy.
The clitoral exercise otherwise known as the long woman is an exercise to increase the length and girt of the clitoris for better libido and better couple’s sexual satisfaction. This procedure came into existence way back in the Victorian time and it is practised more in the African countries especially in Uganda. Because of the numerous advantages, it is now a procedure that has gone viral in the US, the Caribbean and Europe, and has now become accepted worldwide.
It is an exercise majorly recommended for upcoming teenagers [especially in Ugandan culture] already betrothed to a particular man when she is of age. This procedure is specifically carried out on the teenage girl for close to three years for her to be sexually equipped and trained in order to give sexual satisfaction to her man. To get the teenager set for the procedure, an elderly wife is assigned to teach and direct her. As soon as the clitoris reaches a substantial and significant length, the teenager is certified as a good wife to be and tagged with a new name ‘the long woman.’
The many benefits of this exercise have created an impactful transformation basically on the marriage union of many relationships, most especially on the wife and on the sexual relationship.
Clitoral exercise is the regular application of special oil called ‘Avangunin oil of life’ and daily rotational pulling out of the clitoris with the first and thumb finger coupled with the support of the second finger in both clockwise and anti-clockwise directions. The clitoris is placed in-between the first finger and the thumb while the second finger supports firmly the first finger. For best result, the rubbing should be done twice daily for 10 minutes each.
It is best done while the lady lies down with her knee pulled up and bent while a throw pillow is under her buttocks in an angle 45 degree. To prevent infection such as vaginal infection, yeast infection, vaginal itching and urinary tract infection, it is advisable for the pubic hair to be shaved a little bit above the location of the clitoris, the finger nails must be well trimmed and hands must be washed only with mild soap and also lubricated with Avangunin oil of life. This is a natural oil gotten from three different plants with natural chemical composition that works directly on the nerves of the clitoris, [the clitoris has almost same amount of nerves supply as the penis]. This oil also has some natural growth element and ability to heal any damage done during the time of rotation. It should also be noted that there should not be too much pressure on the clitoris so as to prevent bursting of the tender blood vessels and numbness.
The procedure is most appropriate for the following categories of people, ladies that have undergone various degrees of circumcisions. There are three types of circumcision; first, second and third degree circumcision. First degree circumcision is when the tip of the clitoris is cut off. Second degree circumcision is when the major part of the clitoris is cut off while the third degree is when the entire clitoris is cut off from the hood alongside with some part of the labia minora [the inner lip of the female vulva]. Females who have undergone episiotomy either lateral or bi-lateral cut during normal vaginal delivery and develop lots of scar formation leading to loss of sensual sensitivity during sex. Potential young wives aspiring to be the best sex partner of their husbands; women with low supply of female sex hormones.
Many couples have called in asking if the procedure has any advantage to the husbands. Yes, it does by providing a sexually sensitive and responsive wife, by reducing long frustrating foreplay for the husband, by reducing high level of clumsiness and stressful sex. The long clitoris has a way of rubbing off on the penis of the man during active thrusting in and out, thus creating a responsive libido triggering for the man. It increases female libido and level of female arousal. It also helps to compensate for the husband whose penis is small in size. The long clitoris usually assists the small penis to fully occupy the inside of the vagina [this is because some clitoris can be as long as the size of some small size penis]. It increases the sexual confidence of the new bride. It increases sexual libido during pregnancy and lactation. Basically, a nursing mother most times may not be sexually inspired to either ask for sex or notice the sexual desire in her husband, due to the fact that as long as she nurses her baby with breast milk, she will always produce a hormone called prolactin which is a form of natural family planning hormone. This hormone only helps the nursing mother to be more concerned about her baby than be sexually attractive or responsive to her husband. But when such lady has over the years developed a long clitoris, it is of an added advantage because the clitoris gets bigger during breastfeeding and this stimulates her sexual appetite compared to her contemporary who has not practised clitoral exercise. It also enhances good blowjob.
It increases and fast-forwards orgasm in all categories of women. It helps to naturally cure acute level of premature ejaculation, weak erection, and acute erectile dysfunction. This is because during sex, the clitoris increases in size and strength and actually erect and stands firm like the penis and the sensation the erect clitoris gives the penis helps to stimulate it and when there is active penile stimulation, there is free flow of blood to the base and shaft of the penis which helps to supply more oxygen and nutrient to the penis. When this is done on a frequent level, healing starts showing up gradually and before long, most men with poor erection, weak erection and poor performance always testify to the positive effect of the extra length of their wives’ clitoris. Note: it is not safe to use any other oil as this may not give you the result you so much desire.
Clitoral exercise can be practised by every woman of any age, at any stage. This is because it is a natural exercise with natural plant oil to help the clitoris grow to any capacity of growth. So why wait, start now.
Questions and Answers
Acupuncture and impotence, how effective
A friend of mine said he was completely cured of impotence when he underwent acupuncture. Please, does it really work?
Mr. Allen Owolabi
Actually, acupuncture is an age-old healing practice of traditional Chinese medicine in which thin needles are placed at specific points in the body. It’s primarily used to relieve pain but it is also used to treat other conditions. Acupuncture seeks to release the flow of the body’s vital energy or “chi” by stimulating points along 14 energy pathways. Scientists say the needles cause the body to release endorphins — natural painkillers — and may boost blood flow and change brain activity. Now, the only way acupuncture may have worked for that your friend is this; when there is good blood flow to the male organ, he must have done the acupuncture severally. However, some sceptics say acupuncture works only because people believe it will. However, I would suggest you could try it if it will help.
I want to make a confession
Dear Funmi, I want to make a confession and at the same time seek your advice on my issue. My problem is that I don’t get aroused around my wife any longer. For me to have an erection and even maintain it, it will take a lot of touching and blowing but most time, I don’t get up at all. I married a very beautiful woman with outstanding brilliance and behaviour but her boobs are just too small. The confession there is that I hit 100 per cent arousal anytime I see or touch any other female apart from my wife. For me to be certain, I even had two other secret lovers and mere thinking about them gets me aroused. But with my wife, it is an issue. I know having secret lovers is very wrong and I am gradually getting out of it but I think I am confused now, sometimes I will even think I have erectile dysfunction but if I am around any other lady, 10 -15 minutes and even sometime close to 30 minutes, I am still hard. We had a child and we have been trying to make another one but I am not just getting it up. The truth is I love her but I am not just feeling her, I see her nakedness everyday but I am not moved. I don’t even mind if there is a drug that can get me very aroused when I am with her. Please help me, I am so confused. You may publish my write up but please don’t put my name. I await your response. God will hold you and your family (Amen).
Anonymous
My dear sir, your mail was well understood but I have a set of questions for you; were you aware of your highest sexual trigger point before your marriage to your wife? Did you by any means ask her while you were dating if she was naturally endowed with big breasts or did she have a push up bra on 24/7? Were you so much in love with her and also attracted to her beauty and   outstanding brilliant qualities and behaviour that you ignored the fact that big breast keeps you going come rain or shine? If all your answers to these questions are in the positive, then I would suggest you make up your mind to live with your choice and either help her to increase the size of her breast naturally or buy her lots of invisible breast attachments. Lots of us are not all perfect physically but we can enhance ourselves. Besides, it has been researched that when couples grow together in the marriage union, they tend to live more like brothers and sisters rather than hot lovers with sexual sparks. You will have to work on your wife to help you bring more of sexual sparks back into your life than going out there to other women. I would also like to say that you also have to realise that you will be losing out greatly if you allow your sexual needs alone to define your marriage. Think on your investment in the marriage; think of the other outstanding qualities of the woman and also think of the destinies of your lovely children. As much as there is no substitute for good sex in marriage, I think when you make a marital choice you should also be responsible for your choices.
Could this be something else?
I have an alarming yeast infection that has lingered on for more than necessary. I have been to the hospital; I have even tried over the counter medications, but it’s just not working.
Ms comfort Ogirilu
Self-diagnosis is not always accurate. In fact, studies show that up to 50 per cent of women who think they have a yeast infection actually have another type of vaginitis. So, before you conclude it is a yeast infection, watch out for these pointers to help you decide what might be going on. Yeast infection symptoms include itching – Itching is the most common symptoms of a yeast infection. Sometimes the itching is so severe that you scratch until raw sores develop. Vaginal burning – Yeast can also cause vaginal irritation, burning and swelling, as well as pain with urination and sex. Occasionally, with severe infections, the entire vulva are bright red and swollen. Vaginal discharge – The vaginal discharge of a yeast infection is most typically thick, white and clumpsy, almost a ‘cottage cheese’ [locally produced wara] appearance, but some infections will be tricky and have a normal appearing discharge.
Please, do not mistake the following symptoms for a yeast infection: Foul vaginal odour – a strong vaginal odour is not a typical symptom of a yeast infection, but more likely to be bacterial vaginosis (BV), which is an overgrowth of abnormal bacteria instead of yeast. BV is more common than yeast infections and causes a grey thin discharge and a pungent fishy odour that is most prominent after intercourse. BV is easily treated with an antibiotic and doesn’t cause any long term health issues.
Vulva blisters/ulcerations – Genital herpes cause blisters and ulcers that can sometimes be confused with a yeast infection because both can cause a burning pain, swelling and irritation. Sadly, there is no cure for herpes, but there are antiviral pills available to treat the symptoms of the disease.
Frothy vaginal discharge – Discharge that is frothy and bubbly could be a sign of trichomonas, a common sexually transmitted disease (STD). Trichomonas is highly contagious, but luckily can be easily treated with antibiotics and doesn’t cause any long term health issues. All sexual partners must be treated with antibiotics as well, or you can get re-infected easily.
By FUNMI AKINGBADE

Best help for circumcised wives

A lot of married women have ignorantly and unconsciously turned their sincere and faithful husbands into guilty unhappy cheats; these men have [against their wish] broken their marriage vows over and again. Some have even accepted infidelity in their marriage as the only way out of their sexual frustration and dissatisfaction, while others have accepted their fate, all because their wives are brutally circumcised and sexually uncooperative. This category of wives are either not interested in sex, or do not know how or have the ability to sexually meet the needs of their men. They have a very low libido or they have never been aroused or ever experienced orgasm, or have given up on their sexuality all because of the negative effect of female circumcision, otherwise called female genital mutilation.
One of the major challenges I have come across in the past few years is the inability to help these women freely with the gift of sex and to really enjoy sexual relationship within their marriage despite the challenge of circumcision.
Circumcision or female genital mutilation became popularly accepted in the Dark Age in order to eradicate or reduce the level of female promiscuity. But oddly, it has been discovered that promiscuity is a matter of the heart. Until the heart of a man is occupied by right attitude and mindset, abolishing promiscuity can never be effective by physical infliction of pain or cuts.
From research and medical indications, circumcised wives hardly enjoy sex, they hardly get aroused, hardly experience any form of libido sensation or hype, are hardly interested in sex, they are mostly unable to sexually satisfy their men, they hardly have a normal delivery without either a tear or an episiotomy cut, during a normal vaginal delivery. These categories of women also mostly experience low sexual confidence due to the ugly picture of the site of the circumcision. However, a natural do-it-yourself home remedy exercise has been discovered called the long woman or the clitoral exercise that will put smile in the faces of many couples. Please, read and enjoy.
The clitoral exercise otherwise known as the long woman is an exercise to increase the length and girt of the clitoris for better libido and better couple’s sexual satisfaction. This procedure came into existence way back in the Victorian time and it is practised more in the African countries especially in Uganda. Because of the numerous advantages, it is now a procedure that has gone viral in the US, the Caribbean and Europe, and has now become accepted worldwide.
It is an exercise majorly recommended for upcoming teenagers [especially in Ugandan culture] already betrothed to a particular man when she is of age. This procedure is specifically carried out on the teenage girl for close to three years for her to be sexually equipped and trained in order to give sexual satisfaction to her man. To get the teenager set for the procedure, an elderly wife is assigned to teach and direct her. As soon as the clitoris reaches a substantial and significant length, the teenager is certified as a good wife to be and tagged with a new name ‘the long woman.’
The many benefits of this exercise have created an impactful transformation basically on the marriage union of many relationships, most especially on the wife and on the sexual relationship.
Clitoral exercise is the regular application of special oil called ‘Avangunin oil of life’ and daily rotational pulling out of the clitoris with the first and thumb finger coupled with the support of the second finger in both clockwise and anti-clockwise directions. The clitoris is placed in-between the first finger and the thumb while the second finger supports firmly the first finger. For best result, the rubbing should be done twice daily for 10 minutes each.
It is best done while the lady lies down with her knee pulled up and bent while a throw pillow is under her buttocks in an angle 45 degree. To prevent infection such as vaginal infection, yeast infection, vaginal itching and urinary tract infection, it is advisable for the pubic hair to be shaved a little bit above the location of the clitoris, the finger nails must be well trimmed and hands must be washed only with mild soap and also lubricated with Avangunin oil of life. This is a natural oil gotten from three different plants with natural chemical composition that works directly on the nerves of the clitoris, [the clitoris has almost same amount of nerves supply as the penis]. This oil also has some natural growth element and ability to heal any damage done during the time of rotation. It should also be noted that there should not be too much pressure on the clitoris so as to prevent bursting of the tender blood vessels and numbness.
The procedure is most appropriate for the following categories of people, ladies that have undergone various degrees of circumcisions. There are three types of circumcision; first, second and third degree circumcision. First degree circumcision is when the tip of the clitoris is cut off. Second degree circumcision is when the major part of the clitoris is cut off while the third degree is when the entire clitoris is cut off from the hood alongside with some part of the labia minora [the inner lip of the female vulva]. Females who have undergone episiotomy either lateral or bi-lateral cut during normal vaginal delivery and develop lots of scar formation leading to loss of sensual sensitivity during sex. Potential young wives aspiring to be the best sex partner of their husbands; women with low supply of female sex hormones.
Many couples have called in asking if the procedure has any advantage to the husbands. Yes, it does by providing a sexually sensitive and responsive wife, by reducing long frustrating foreplay for the husband, by reducing high level of clumsiness and stressful sex. The long clitoris has a way of rubbing off on the penis of the man during active thrusting in and out, thus creating a responsive libido triggering for the man. It increases female libido and level of female arousal. It also helps to compensate for the husband whose penis is small in size. The long clitoris usually assists the small penis to fully occupy the inside of the vagina [this is because some clitoris can be as long as the size of some small size penis]. It increases the sexual confidence of the new bride. It increases sexual libido during pregnancy and lactation. Basically, a nursing mother most times may not be sexually inspired to either ask for sex or notice the sexual desire in her husband, due to the fact that as long as she nurses her baby with breast milk, she will always produce a hormone called prolactin which is a form of natural family planning hormone. This hormone only helps the nursing mother to be more concerned about her baby than be sexually attractive or responsive to her husband. But when such lady has over the years developed a long clitoris, it is of an added advantage because the clitoris gets bigger during breastfeeding and this stimulates her sexual appetite compared to her contemporary who has not practised clitoral exercise. It also enhances good blowjob.
It increases and fast-forwards orgasm in all categories of women. It helps to naturally cure acute level of premature ejaculation, weak erection, and acute erectile dysfunction. This is because during sex, the clitoris increases in size and strength and actually erect and stands firm like the penis and the sensation the erect clitoris gives the penis helps to stimulate it and when there is active penile stimulation, there is free flow of blood to the base and shaft of the penis which helps to supply more oxygen and nutrient to the penis. When this is done on a frequent level, healing starts showing up gradually and before long, most men with poor erection, weak erection and poor performance always testify to the positive effect of the extra length of their wives’ clitoris. Note: it is not safe to use any other oil as this may not give you the result you so much desire.
Clitoral exercise can be practised by every woman of any age, at any stage. This is because it is a natural exercise with natural plant oil to help the clitoris grow to any capacity of growth. So why wait, start now.
Questions and Answers
Acupuncture and impotence, how effective
A friend of mine said he was completely cured of impotence when he underwent acupuncture. Please, does it really work?
Mr. Allen Owolabi
Actually, acupuncture is an age-old healing practice of traditional Chinese medicine in which thin needles are placed at specific points in the body. It’s primarily used to relieve pain but it is also used to treat other conditions. Acupuncture seeks to release the flow of the body’s vital energy or “chi” by stimulating points along 14 energy pathways. Scientists say the needles cause the body to release endorphins — natural painkillers — and may boost blood flow and change brain activity. Now, the only way acupuncture may have worked for that your friend is this; when there is good blood flow to the male organ, he must have done the acupuncture severally. However, some sceptics say acupuncture works only because people believe it will. However, I would suggest you could try it if it will help.
I want to make a confession
Dear Funmi, I want to make a confession and at the same time seek your advice on my issue. My problem is that I don’t get aroused around my wife any longer. For me to have an erection and even maintain it, it will take a lot of touching and blowing but most time, I don’t get up at all. I married a very beautiful woman with outstanding brilliance and behaviour but her boobs are just too small. The confession there is that I hit 100 per cent arousal anytime I see or touch any other female apart from my wife. For me to be certain, I even had two other secret lovers and mere thinking about them gets me aroused. But with my wife, it is an issue. I know having secret lovers is very wrong and I am gradually getting out of it but I think I am confused now, sometimes I will even think I have erectile dysfunction but if I am around any other lady, 10 -15 minutes and even sometime close to 30 minutes, I am still hard. We had a child and we have been trying to make another one but I am not just getting it up. The truth is I love her but I am not just feeling her, I see her nakedness everyday but I am not moved. I don’t even mind if there is a drug that can get me very aroused when I am with her. Please help me, I am so confused. You may publish my write up but please don’t put my name. I await your response. God will hold you and your family (Amen).
Anonymous
My dear sir, your mail was well understood but I have a set of questions for you; were you aware of your highest sexual trigger point before your marriage to your wife? Did you by any means ask her while you were dating if she was naturally endowed with big breasts or did she have a push up bra on 24/7? Were you so much in love with her and also attracted to her beauty and   outstanding brilliant qualities and behaviour that you ignored the fact that big breast keeps you going come rain or shine? If all your answers to these questions are in the positive, then I would suggest you make up your mind to live with your choice and either help her to increase the size of her breast naturally or buy her lots of invisible breast attachments. Lots of us are not all perfect physically but we can enhance ourselves. Besides, it has been researched that when couples grow together in the marriage union, they tend to live more like brothers and sisters rather than hot lovers with sexual sparks. You will have to work on your wife to help you bring more of sexual sparks back into your life than going out there to other women. I would also like to say that you also have to realise that you will be losing out greatly if you allow your sexual needs alone to define your marriage. Think on your investment in the marriage; think of the other outstanding qualities of the woman and also think of the destinies of your lovely children. As much as there is no substitute for good sex in marriage, I think when you make a marital choice you should also be responsible for your choices.
Could this be something else?
I have an alarming yeast infection that has lingered on for more than necessary. I have been to the hospital; I have even tried over the counter medications, but it’s just not working.
Ms comfort Ogirilu
Self-diagnosis is not always accurate. In fact, studies show that up to 50 per cent of women who think they have a yeast infection actually have another type of vaginitis. So, before you conclude it is a yeast infection, watch out for these pointers to help you decide what might be going on. Yeast infection symptoms include itching – Itching is the most common symptoms of a yeast infection. Sometimes the itching is so severe that you scratch until raw sores develop. Vaginal burning – Yeast can also cause vaginal irritation, burning and swelling, as well as pain with urination and sex. Occasionally, with severe infections, the entire vulva are bright red and swollen. Vaginal discharge – The vaginal discharge of a yeast infection is most typically thick, white and clumpsy, almost a ‘cottage cheese’ [locally produced wara] appearance, but some infections will be tricky and have a normal appearing discharge.
Please, do not mistake the following symptoms for a yeast infection: Foul vaginal odour – a strong vaginal odour is not a typical symptom of a yeast infection, but more likely to be bacterial vaginosis (BV), which is an overgrowth of abnormal bacteria instead of yeast. BV is more common than yeast infections and causes a grey thin discharge and a pungent fishy odour that is most prominent after intercourse. BV is easily treated with an antibiotic and doesn’t cause any long term health issues.
Vulva blisters/ulcerations – Genital herpes cause blisters and ulcers that can sometimes be confused with a yeast infection because both can cause a burning pain, swelling and irritation. Sadly, there is no cure for herpes, but there are antiviral pills available to treat the symptoms of the disease.
Frothy vaginal discharge – Discharge that is frothy and bubbly could be a sign of trichomonas, a common sexually transmitted disease (STD). Trichomonas is highly contagious, but luckily can be easily treated with antibiotics and doesn’t cause any long term health issues. All sexual partners must be treated with antibiotics as well, or you can get re-infected easily.
By FUNMI AKINGBADE