Keloids getting on my nerves
I am a man that believes in marital fidelity but loves to enjoy sex to any extent with my wife. But I have a big problem at hand; my wife has lots of keloid formations all over her vagina area. This does not only irritate me but affects my libido. As soon as I site the ugly cluster of keloids, my erection just goes down. I have encouraged her to go for surgery but she refused. What best can I do? I am starving.
Sternly Jokohu
A keloid is a bump of scar tissue that grows past a wound’s bounds. It may keep growing weeks after the skin heals. It is more common in dark skinned women. Keloids can form anywhere, but often they’re on earlobes, shoulders, the upper back, chest, cheeks, tip of the vulva especially in women that have undergone episiotomy cutting during normal vaginal delivery. They’re not harmful to sex; they are just ugly if they are more than one. But if they become too big or itchy, this can be treated or surgically removed. Since she is scared of surgical removal, all you need to do is see a dermatologist for some hormonal steroid cream that will gradually remove them one after the other. Besides, she can also use natural home remedy cream like local shea-butter and aloe Vera plant. If she rubs these two items morning and night on them, they will gradually drop off, though it will take a while, it will definitely drop off.
My husband battles impotence
“My husband does a stressful job and, he is having a problem with impotence. I wonder if that is having an effect on him. My husband is discouraged and I am also disturbed as well. I miss the intimacy of sex, and my husband is disappointed in himself just because he cannot perform.
Mrs. Maria Moringaf
Sex is an important area in marriage, so it is worth facing this situation head-on. Your husband needs not feel embarrassed or frustrated at all because help is within arm’s reach. Sometimes, his condition may just be pre-mature ejaculation or weak erection, not outright impotence. In addition, do not assume stress is causing your husband’s impotence; physical disorders such as diabetes mellitus, hypertension, or a hormonal imbalance are possibilities.
Various medications such as some antidepressants, antihypertensive, or diuretics, as well as excessive cigarette and alcohol consumption can also cause impotence. In majority of men, however, impotence is triggered by psychological factors—stress, fatigue or state of hopelessness. If that is the case, your husband will have to find healthy ways to reduce or cope with his stress. In the meantime, do not allow impotence to eliminate your physical connection. Remember the great Cialis called 36-hours-of-freedom is still doing wonders.
I had a terrible vaginal scar tissue and a damaged gland
I’m an ardent reader of your column (sex and sexuality) on the pages of Saturday Punch newspaper. Over the time, I have found most of the issues treated very educative, informative and enlightening. The fact that you always restrict and direct your topics to couples gladdens my heart the most. You may not know you are helping many marriages, even those who criticise your column being on the pages of newspapers are profiting from the invaluable points you make in the secret of their bedroom with their spouse. This is to encourage you to be focused and not get distracted, let the emphasis continue to be directed to couples and couples only. However, I have this question for you: few years ago, due to infections and a difficult childbirth experience, I had a terrible vaginal scar tissue and a damaged gland. As a result, sexual intercourse became very painful for me. Because of the pains, my husband would always release prematurely. However, long after I was cured, he cannot hold on his ejaculation for two minutes. I understand this is not his fault, and I also understand his need for regular sex, but his premature ejaculation is embarrassingly getting out of hand. I dread having sex, because it is so frustrating. My husband insists that if I love him, I will keep on enduring, but should I keep enduring it out of love? Resentment is growing between us.
Frustrated wife.
The idea of “enduring” sex for any reason could be distressing to some spouses. We human beings are created with such a marvelous ability for healing and I’m usually optimistic about the potential and probability for healing. Working through this type of problem can deepen your relationship. Expressing love to each other as you consider each other’s needs and difficulties can help you both to realise how important you are to each other. The key, again, is communicating openly, tenderly and unselfishly. When we work to meet one another’s needs, our love for each other expands and deepens. I hope you will use this difficulty to let that happen.
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