Wives, did you know that sex time is not the best time to shed tears, because the scent of a woman’s tears decreases sexual arousal in men? Some researchers have speculated that a woman’s libido is linked to her testosterone level. Although usually thought of as a male hormone, testosterone is also made in small quantities in women, it is produced in her ovaries. As she ages, her body produces less of all the sex hormones, which include oestrogens, progesterone and testosterone. By age 40, the production of testosterone in a woman’s body is about half the amount made in the 20s. Although the ovary does continue to produce testosterone after menopause, the level drops gradually after this time. Women who have their ovaries surgically removed have even lower levels of testosterone.
Do you wonder why your desire for junk food increases when you are in your period? The junk food can kill libido because they drain blood. Some women get cravings for strange foods when they are in their period, simply because women are hormonal beings, and hormones cause cravings. As the cycle swings, the hormone swings alongside. These make a woman’s taste buds to be spicy and crave salty foods which easily lead to anaemia. To prevent anaemia, reduce unhealthy food intake. With the changes in metabolism, some women may feel cravings for carbohydrates, or any number of other foods. Do you also wonder why your desire for sex increases when you are ‘on?’ Well, an increase in sexual libido during menstrual period has to do with hormones. They cause the vaginal secretions to increase, causing the breasts to swell; simply put, that is nature’s way of saying, let’s have sex.
Can you believe it that majority of couples complaining of infertility could be as a result of too frequent sucking of the wife’s breast? Yes! If you are fond of sucking your wife’s breast too frequently during foreplay, or a wife is always demanding for her breast to be sucked hard, to lead her into exploding arousal may be delaying pregnancy unknowingly. This is because frequent sucking of breast stimulates the production of prolactin which is a natural hormone produced during breast feeding to help prevent pregnancy. Since the pituitary gland cannot differentiate the lips or sucking reflect of an adult from that of a child, it will just go ahead and help increase the simulation of the prolactin which inhibits fertilisation. So moderation is the rule of the game.
Do you wonder why you have such a heavy flow? Well, maybe your body is trying to tell you something because your period is your ‘barometer.’ A heavy flow can be a marker of uterine fibroids, which are benign growths on the uterus, or thyroid problems or hormone irregularities. It is important for you to see your doctor if your periods are heavy [meaning more than a pad an hour], or if you are flooding [meaning bright red blood that just does not stop] or if you have large clots. It is not healthy to have menstrual clotting, it most time points to the existence of fibroids and if you have a lot of them, or you’re starting to have symptoms of anaemia or low iron like headache and dizziness, see your doctor fast.
Do you wonder why you get diarrhoea and constipation during your period? Again, the single reason is your hormones. All women react differently to hormones; actually the hormones in a woman’s body control her temperature, especially around the time she ovulates. It is also responsible for the acne [pimples] around the menstrual periods that people term as breast tenderness, and for so many things. In fact, the slowing down of the metabolism in the gastrointestinal tract is the reason many pregnant women will become constipated or have diarrhoea because of those high hormone levels during pregnancy.
Wives, did you know that frequent denial of sexual favour from your husband is one of the reasons why 59 per cent of married men develop premature ejaculation, weak erection, quick ejaculation and anxiety of performance? When a husband is always receiving excuses of why sex cannot happen on a too regular basis, his psychic registers a negative neuropathic wave which triggers a deadening of the nerves, arteries and tissues of the penis and sometimes causes an inflammation of the prostate gland and malfunction of the testes. Many become hostile to their children and less productive at work.
Did you know that many ladies give themselves toilet disease more during menstruation and also infect their husbands than even when they use public toilet? You can also prevent a whole lot of infections during your menstrual period if you so minimize the hours you wear your sanitary pad. Sanitary pad should not be worn more than six to eight hours per day. Sanitary pad worn for longer period can be a medium for bacteria and can lead to uterine infections and toxic shock syndrome. If you are a lover of tampon, bear it in mind that it can be stuck and get wedged behind your cervix. Prescribed antibiotics especially during menstrual period to cure some aliment can allow the growth of yeast infection such as ‘toilet disease, itching in the private part, and some STDs. While taking antibiotic prescription, try to eat yoghurt, which is the more natural way, of taking antifungal to balance up.
Did you wonder why some wives’ menstrual cycle is never regular, and if care is not taken, can ruin your sexual passion due to unwanted pregnancy? Well, a research at George Washington University did a first-of-its-kind survey of the menstrual histories of more than 600 women. They found that only 28 per cent of women had textbook cycles, and this is the conclusion. If you are over 45 and you are pushing past 35 days, it may be because you are in your pre-menopausal and beginning to ovulate less frequently. As women age from their 20s through their early 40s, the average menstrual cycle declines from 30 to 27 days (though many women had cycles that were longer or shorter). This average increases as they approach menopause: up to 35 days when they are three to four years away, then 45 days two years prior to the change, and finally 80 days in the year before they stop altogether.
However, if you have a 14-day cycle followed by a 36-day cycle, that is usually an indication that you have a hormone imbalance. You should see your doctor, especially if you are still at an age where you might want to get pregnant. However, if missing periods entirely and you are not pregnant, your ovaries are probably failing to release an egg (anovulation), which means your body will not produce the hormones that guide menstruation. Stress can trigger anovulation; you do not have to worry if it happens just once or twice a year. In older women, a “missed” period may also simply be a very long cycle. Experts say that when you see a 60-day cycle, that is a good indication you are approaching menopause. According to research from the Weizmann Institute of Science in Israel, ginseng root boosts arousal and sexual satisfaction, and chocolate increases desire. A group of scientists recently carried out a research on why a typical teenage Nigerian girl becomes sexually active indiscriminately and this report was sent to my office. In the report, 90 per cent of mothers claim to have spoken to their daughters about the danger of indiscriminate sexual activities but only 20 per cent of these girls confirmed this statement and 50 per cent say their moms have never talked to them about sex. Ninty four per cent of these mothers say they did not have a conversation about sex with their own mothers before their first sexual experience. Forty two per cent of these girls say their beliefs about sex are most influenced by their associations, Internet, porn, peer pressure, school, religion and parents while just 12 per cent of girls say their beliefs about sex are most influenced by their mothers’ beliefs and experiences. The most common message moms say they pass on during the sex talk is, “A man will tell you anything to get you into bed, it doesn’t mean he loves you or will marry you. Be careful of men, all they want is use you and dump you.” seventy per cent of girls say they get most of their information about sex from internet and friends. Eighty seven per cent of these girls say if they have opportunity to talk to their moms like their friends about sex, it will shape their commitment to abstinence before marriage and be more comfortable about their sexuality. This is what young Nigerian girls think about sex. Did you know what your eight-year- old girl is really thinking about sex right now? And can you boldly say you are sure of her non-involvement in vaginal penetrative sex?
Did you know that you can have a great, long-lasting sex life with the same married partner as long as you both are married? And that if you give that person mind-blowing, erotic blow job and out-of-this-planet sexual treat once in a while, he or she will look absolutely younger than his or her age? Absolutely yes. This was a discovery some researchers got from a group of 600 married couples who have been married for over 25 years. However, they discovered that these couples were not having movie-style sex always but a mixture of all types of sex. They interchanged from movie sex, to relationship sex and romantic sex to passionate sex. They did not only validate their partner, they praise their aged bodies; these habit made them get turned on even before they start sex, which invariably makes them love every time they are together.
Questions and Answers
My husband compares me with porn stars
From the look of things, it seems my husband compares me with women in porn movies. Don’t you think he is being unrealistic?
Nike Aribiosuka
From a realistic point of view, most men do not wish their wives to look like women in porn movies. But rather they wish their wives were as comfortable with their bodies and with sex as those ladies in porn movies. Women are a lot harder on themselves than men are. All you need is a heart and body that is soft, smells and tastes good. Keep the sex bed adventurous and hot as much as you can put on seductive outfit you feel comfortable in, and forget the elaborate bustier. Not all husbands are into lingerie and there is nothing worse than squeezing into some skimpy thing you are bulging out of.
Can’t couple be happy without sex?
You talk about sex as if it must be a do-or-die thing between couples, can’t a couple be happy without sex?
Mrs Ayuban Sikupa
As a sex therapist, I can tell you that when a couple who have not been sexually active suddenly have a good experience, you can see the difference. They come in laughing and talking; there is definitely more physical affection between them. It is better than any therapy you can ever imagine. On the other hand, there are couples out there who simply do not care very much about sex. In addition, there are more sexless marriages than you would think of.
By FUNMI AKINGBADE
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