Just a few days ago, I got a phone call from one of my numerous readers, a couple who wanted to see me by all means despite the heavy rain. I insisted the appointment be rescheduled due to the weather but they insisted on seeing me. On getting to my office, the wife spoke first. She said they wanted to see me because of the question their eight-year-old son raised which they could not honestly answer. Their son said, ‘why does daddy always sleep on the couch?” They were worried that the boy may spill the “secret” of their sexual dryness and drifting apart. Even though the husband tried to make him believe otherwise by saying “Your mom and I still sleep in our bed together,” but the boy was not swayed. He insisted that they were not sleeping on the bed together anymore.
The woman said that was why they came to see me to help them from drifting apart sexually.
No matter what you say, marriage and a sex-filled bed should go hand in hand. Cuddling under the sheets night after night, initiating endless intimacy and sex make marriage healthy. But sometimes, sex gets lost in the shuffle of schedules. Sometimes, couples introduce pornography into their bedrooms, dangerously comparing their spouses to porn stars.
Here are some ideas to jumpstart your sex life and get it sizzling again.
Make sex a priority; go to the extent of writing it on your calendar if you’re having trouble finding the time. While sex is certainly not the biggest part of a marriage, it is a fairly accurate measure of the health of your marriage. It will enhance your sleep and your energy levels, so plan for the first week to have sex every night for a week. Yes, that includes the weekend! Why? Researchers say having sex usually begets the desire to have more.
Ask your spouse what he or she needs. Men are different from women. Women need a reason; men just need a place. Men, if you truly want to touch your wife’s body, touch her heart first. Talk with her. Consider charting her up in the kitchen as a form of foreplay! If you have young children, take over bedtime duties and give your wife precious time to make the transition from mommy to sex goddess! Honour her and be sensitive to her needs. Women, if you truly want to have a great intimate relationship, stop treating your man like he’s a rapist because he wants to have sex. This is his God-given desire and his best way of connecting with you. In general terms, sex might well be more important to men than to women. So make the most of it. Make it your goal to make every room in your house sexually appealing. Get creative, try a fashion show with lingerie; greet your husband at the dinner table wearing his tie and nothing else even if your breast is sagged. Make sure you are under a blowing fan, the cool air will temporarily firm up the breast making your nipple stand out and this will appeal to him greatly, or wake him in the middle of the night for sex wearing his favourite colour hat. Send a text for his eyes only.
Like this couple visiting my office, sometimes some couples need more than the ordinary to revive their sex life and create a passionate heat between themselves. For instance, a very advance version of doggy style has been of tremendous help to many of my clients. So as in my habit, I did not hesitate to introduce this ‘wonder working,’ ‘all in one,’ ‘ever ready to revive style’ to my visiting couple. This style can be practised by any couple regardless of their age, years of sexual starvation, health condition, and most importantly the advantage of this result proven style is that it helps couples to experience erotic sensation and gain back lost feelings. Now husbands, when you are entering your wife, let it be from behind, make sure you flatten her out by placing a pillow under her stomach to raise her buttock. Then lie down fully flat on top of her, instead of staying even with her body, move up as high as you can [even when it is obvious she is taller than you, it is not important] then use the pillow to position yourself so you are able to thrust down directly into her ‘orgasm zone.’ If you can last at least five minutes with this position you are sure as a husband to give your wife an orgasm. And the moment a wife of any age, shape or race can achieve orgasm, she will be ready for sex at any given time regardless of the fact that she is circumcised, old, pregnant or breastfeeding. This position has proven to heal many drifted apart couples like magic. Remember if you are doing it right, your head as the husband should be right above hers, putting you in the perfect position for some nice whispering and sexy talks. When you are ready to turn her around, make sure you wrap her legs around your neck, and you are putting your tongue to work, then reach up and play with her nipples, tease her with your tongue. Use your fingers to trace all over the inside of her thighs and near and around her vulva, you will notice she will be well lubricated. Many wives love a feel of their husband’s private part goes deep enough to their orgasm zone while the husband is thrusting each time. I am sure you know what to do right now as a couple. Well, husband, what are you waiting for? Go grab your wife and put to practice what you have just read; remember even if you have drifted apart for so long, this is an all-time tonic style. Try it RIGHT NOW!
Questions and Answers
My husband wants sex reward for everything
I think my sex drive is normal and I love having sex with my husband. But lately, I feel turned off because he seems to expect sex as a reward for everything. If he gives me money to fix my hair, if he spends time listening to my problems, if he takes me out to see my parents, he expects to be rewarded with sex. I hate feeling obligated. Do I owe my husband sex?
Mrs bolaji udoh
Married life works best when both partners focus on ways to express love and meet each other’s needs. It would be good for you to try to change the way you interpret his interest in sex. If your husband communicates his sexual desires in those terms, try to see his desire for frequent sex as an opportunity for you to show love. Of course, we hope your husband will start communicating his needs in a less demanding way, but you can still choose how you want to interpret those requests. Your husband may be trying to win your heart by performing acts of kindness and service and I personally think you should be happy because out there are countless of wives who would give anything to have what you want to trash away. I think this should be a fun experiment for you.
My wife makes me feel guilty about sex
My wife and I have sex regularly, but it’s always the same and I’m bored with it. The problem is when I try to spice things up, my wife becomes shy or embarrassed. Then I feel like a hunter ready to devour a prey, forcing changes where she doesn’t want them. I’ve heard that sex between married people should get better and better, but that’s not true for us. What can I do?
Mr Agonji Mufutau
Women prefer sameness and men prefer variation. That’s just part of the fascination and frustration of being male and female. Often for men, the fantasies about sexual variety are more exciting than the actual experience of some exotic position. For a woman, those experiments may feel aggressive because she’s uncertain how they’ll feel or how well she’ll perform. If you can talk to your wife about your feelings and listen to hers, it could lead to some helpful negotiation. Learning to adapt to each other’s wishes and needs is what marriage is all about. Being the one to “give in” or make changes is often hard, but it will improve your relationship. Marriage requires some give and take from both partners.
Her neatness affects our sex
When I got married six years ago, I was glad to see that my wife likes things orderly. She is much neater than I am which is great. But her desire for cleanliness has its downside when it comes to sex. Even though I shower and shave beforehand, the smells and fluids associated with intercourse bother her so much that we have rarely had sex for more than two years now. Instead, I am now having sex with her best friend. I know it is wrong but her friend doesn’t reject me like she does.
Tyron Miliokm
Share with your wife your concern for her total sexual enjoyment as well as your desire for the closeness that genital sexual union provides. Taking to adultery few years into your marriage will not help. There may seem to be some question about your wife’s desire for sexual play and orgasmic release that you may need to know. If it is simply the messiness of ejaculation that’s bothering her, then try using a condom or have intercourse in the shower. Keep in mind that sex for her isn’t just sex—as it may be for you. Women tend to express their sexuality as inseparable from their feelings and relationship desires.
As newly married virgins, our sex life is zero
My husband and I have been married for three months. On our honeymoon, my husband got a bad chest cold; the honeymoon wasn’t what I had been waiting for all those years. Both my husband and I were virgins when we married and I thought that our sex life would be exciting and unstoppable once he felt better. Now, three months later, I am the one who makes the move to get intimate. It doesn’t seem to bother him. He used to fast and pray a lot while single to keep the sexual thoughts away. Now that he is married, he is still in that mode; he can’t seem to come out of that. My question is, how am I sure he is not lying to me? Can one fast and pray to the extent that he will not have any sexual feeling in this our time and age?
FrustrJust a few days ago, I got a phone call from one of my numerous readers, a couple who wanted to see me by all means despite the heavy rain. I insisted the appointment be rescheduled due to the weather but they insisted on seeing me. On getting to my office, the wife spoke first. She said they wanted to see me because of the question their eight-year-old son raised which they could not honestly answer. Their son said, ‘why does daddy always sleep on the couch?” They were worried that the boy may spill the “secret” of their sexual dryness and drifting apart. Even though the husband tried to make him believe otherwise by saying “Your mom and I still sleep in our bed together,” but the boy was not swayed. He insisted that they were not sleeping on the bed together anymore.
The woman said that was why they came to see me to help them from drifting apart sexually.
No matter what you say, marriage and a sex-filled bed should go hand in hand. Cuddling under the sheets night after night, initiating endless intimacy and sex make marriage healthy. But sometimes, sex gets lost in the shuffle of schedules. Sometimes, couples introduce pornography into their bedrooms, dangerously comparing their spouses to porn stars.
Here are some ideas to jumpstart your sex life and get it sizzling again.
Make sex a priority; go to the extent of writing it on your calendar if you’re having trouble finding the time. While sex is certainly not the biggest part of a marriage, it is a fairly accurate measure of the health of your marriage. It will enhance your sleep and your energy levels, so plan for the first week to have sex every night for a week. Yes, that includes the weekend! Why? Researchers say having sex usually begets the desire to have more.
Ask your spouse what he or she needs. Men are different from women. Women need a reason; men just need a place. Men, if you truly want to touch your wife’s body, touch her heart first. Talk with her. Consider charting her up in the kitchen as a form of foreplay! If you have young children, take over bedtime duties and give your wife precious time to make the transition from mommy to sex goddess! Honour her and be sensitive to her needs. Women, if you truly want to have a great intimate relationship, stop treating your man like he’s a rapist because he wants to have sex. This is his God-given desire and his best way of connecting with you. In general terms, sex might well be more important to men than to women. So make the most of it. Make it your goal to make every room in your house sexually appealing. Get creative, try a fashion show with lingerie; greet your husband at the dinner table wearing his tie and nothing else even if your breast is sagged. Make sure you are under a blowing fan, the cool air will temporarily firm up the breast making your nipple stand out and this will appeal to him greatly, or wake him in the middle of the night for sex wearing his favourite colour hat. Send a text for his eyes only.
Like this couple visiting my office, sometimes some couples need more than the ordinary to revive their sex life and create a passionate heat between themselves. For instance, a very advance version of doggy style has been of tremendous help to many of my clients. So as in my habit, I did not hesitate to introduce this ‘wonder working,’ ‘all in one,’ ‘ever ready to revive style’ to my visiting couple. This style can be practised by any couple regardless of their age, years of sexual starvation, health condition, and most importantly the advantage of this result proven style is that it helps couples to experience erotic sensation and gain back lost feelings. Now husbands, when you are entering your wife, let it be from behind, make sure you flatten her out by placing a pillow under her stomach to raise her buttock. Then lie down fully flat on top of her, instead of staying even with her body, move up as high as you can [even when it is obvious she is taller than you, it is not important] then use the pillow to position yourself so you are able to thrust down directly into her ‘orgasm zone.’ If you can last at least five minutes with this position you are sure as a husband to give your wife an orgasm. And the moment a wife of any age, shape or race can achieve orgasm, she will be ready for sex at any given time regardless of the fact that she is circumcised, old, pregnant or breastfeeding. This position has proven to heal many drifted apart couples like magic. Remember if you are doing it right, your head as the husband should be right above hers, putting you in the perfect position for some nice whispering and sexy talks. When you are ready to turn her around, make sure you wrap her legs around your neck, and you are putting your tongue to work, then reach up and play with her nipples, tease her with your tongue. Use your fingers to trace all over the inside of her thighs and near and around her vulva, you will notice she will be well lubricated. Many wives love a feel of their husband’s private part goes deep enough to their orgasm zone while the husband is thrusting each time. I am sure you know what to do right now as a couple. Well, husband, what are you waiting for? Go grab your wife and put to practice what you have just read; remember even if you have drifted apart for so long, this is an all-time tonic style. Try it RIGHT NOW!
Questions and Answers
My husband wants sex reward for everything
I think my sex drive is normal and I love having sex with my husband. But lately, I feel turned off because he seems to expect sex as a reward for everything. If he gives me money to fix my hair, if he spends time listening to my problems, if he takes me out to see my parents, he expects to be rewarded with sex. I hate feeling obligated. Do I owe my husband sex?
Mrs bolaji udoh
Married life works best when both partners focus on ways to express love and meet each other’s needs. It would be good for you to try to change the way you interpret his interest in sex. If your husband communicates his sexual desires in those terms, try to see his desire for frequent sex as an opportunity for you to show love. Of course, we hope your husband will start communicating his needs in a less demanding way, but you can still choose how you want to interpret those requests. Your husband may be trying to win your heart by performing acts of kindness and service and I personally think you should be happy because out there are countless of wives who would give anything to have what you want to trash away. I think this should be a fun experiment for you.
My wife makes me feel guilty about sex
My wife and I have sex regularly, but it’s always the same and I’m bored with it. The problem is when I try to spice things up, my wife becomes shy or embarrassed. Then I feel like a hunter ready to devour a prey, forcing changes where she doesn’t want them. I’ve heard that sex between married people should get better and better, but that’s not true for us. What can I do?
Mr Agonji Mufutau
Women prefer sameness and men prefer variation. That’s just part of the fascination and frustration of being male and female. Often for men, the fantasies about sexual variety are more exciting than the actual experience of some exotic position. For a woman, those experiments may feel aggressive because she’s uncertain how they’ll feel or how well she’ll perform. If you can talk to your wife about your feelings and listen to hers, it could lead to some helpful negotiation. Learning to adapt to each other’s wishes and needs is what marriage is all about. Being the one to “give in” or make changes is often hard, but it will improve your relationship. Marriage requires some give and take from both partners.
Her neatness affects our sex
When I got married six years ago, I was glad to see that my wife likes things orderly. She is much neater than I am which is great. But her desire for cleanliness has its downside when it comes to sex. Even though I shower and shave beforehand, the smells and fluids associated with intercourse bother her so much that we have rarely had sex for more than two years now. Instead, I am now having sex with her best friend. I know it is wrong but her friend doesn’t reject me like she does.
Tyron Miliokm
Share with your wife your concern for her total sexual enjoyment as well as your desire for the closeness that genital sexual union provides. Taking to adultery few years into your marriage will not help. There may seem to be some question about your wife’s desire for sexual play and orgasmic release that you may need to know. If it is simply the messiness of ejaculation that’s bothering her, then try using a condom or have intercourse in the shower. Keep in mind that sex for her isn’t just sex—as it may be for you. Women tend to express their sexuality as inseparable from their feelings and relationship desires.
As newly married virgins, our sex life is zero
My husband and I have been married for three months. On our honeymoon, my husband got a bad chest cold; the honeymoon wasn’t what I had been waiting for all those years. Both my husband and I were virgins when we married and I thought that our sex life would be exciting and unstoppable once he felt better. Now, three months later, I am the one who makes the move to get intimate. It doesn’t seem to bother him. He used to fast and pray a lot while single to keep the sexual thoughts away. Now that he is married, he is still in that mode; he can’t seem to come out of that. My question is, how am I sure he is not lying to me? Can one fast and pray to the extent that he will not have any sexual feeling in this our time and age?
Frustrated new wife
Human level of sexual drive varies. Just as most men have a higher desire for sexual play and intercourse and most women less interest, individual differences may reverse this usual pattern.
Each of you should explore openly and honestly your deepest attitudes about sex. How did you learn about sex and what were your earliest sexual experiences? What were the constraints that helped you maintain your virginity? Are there expectations about sexual “performance” that present anxiety when you approach sexual interaction? Understanding yourselves and each other may help you find a more agreeable level of interaction. I’d also like to emphasise the delightful journey toward marital oneness. I fully understand how long three months of newly wedded sexuality may seem, but I want to encourage you to be patient. If, in fact, prior to marriage your husband had been fasting and praying to reduce his sexual thoughts and drive, it may take some time for those patterns of denial to diminish. Your patient acceptance of his sexuality can help him overcome those old inhibitions. Affirm and reward his interest and continue to invite him gently whenever you want.Just a few days ago, I got a phone call from one of my numerous readers, a couple who wanted to see me by all means despite the heavy rain. I insisted the appointment be rescheduled due to the weather but they insisted on seeing me. On getting to my office, the wife spoke first. She said they wanted to see me because of the question their eight-year-old son raised which they could not honestly answer. Their son said, ‘why does daddy always sleep on the couch?” They were worried that the boy may spill the “secret” of their sexual dryness and drifting apart. Even though the husband tried to make him believe otherwise by saying “Your mom and I still sleep in our bed together,” but the boy was not swayed. He insisted that they were not sleeping on the bed together anymore.
The woman said that was why they came to see me to help them from drifting apart sexually.
No matter what you say, marriage and a sex-filled bed should go hand in hand. Cuddling under the sheets night after night, initiating endless intimacy and sex make marriage healthy. But sometimes, sex gets lost in the shuffle of schedules. Sometimes, couples introduce pornography into their bedrooms, dangerously comparing their spouses to porn stars.
Here are some ideas to jumpstart your sex life and get it sizzling again.
Make sex a priority; go to the extent of writing it on your calendar if you’re having trouble finding the time. While sex is certainly not the biggest part of a marriage, it is a fairly accurate measure of the health of your marriage. It will enhance your sleep and your energy levels, so plan for the first week to have sex every night for a week. Yes, that includes the weekend! Why? Researchers say having sex usually begets the desire to have more.
Ask your spouse what he or she needs. Men are different from women. Women need a reason; men just need a place. Men, if you truly want to touch your wife’s body, touch her heart first. Talk with her. Consider charting her up in the kitchen as a form of foreplay! If you have young children, take over bedtime duties and give your wife precious time to make the transition from mommy to sex goddess! Honour her and be sensitive to her needs. Women, if you truly want to have a great intimate relationship, stop treating your man like he’s a rapist because he wants to have sex. This is his God-given desire and his best way of connecting with you. In general terms, sex might well be more important to men than to women. So make the most of it. Make it your goal to make every room in your house sexually appealing. Get creative, try a fashion show with lingerie; greet your husband at the dinner table wearing his tie and nothing else even if your breast is sagged. Make sure you are under a blowing fan, the cool air will temporarily firm up the breast making your nipple stand out and this will appeal to him greatly, or wake him in the middle of the night for sex wearing his favourite colour hat. Send a text for his eyes only.
Like this couple visiting my office, sometimes some couples need more than the ordinary to revive their sex life and create a passionate heat between themselves. For instance, a very advance version of doggy style has been of tremendous help to many of my clients. So as in my habit, I did not hesitate to introduce this ‘wonder working,’ ‘all in one,’ ‘ever ready to revive style’ to my visiting couple. This style can be practised by any couple regardless of their age, years of sexual starvation, health condition, and most importantly the advantage of this result proven style is that it helps couples to experience erotic sensation and gain back lost feelings. Now husbands, when you are entering your wife, let it be from behind, make sure you flatten her out by placing a pillow under her stomach to raise her buttock. Then lie down fully flat on top of her, instead of staying even with her body, move up as high as you can [even when it is obvious she is taller than you, it is not important] then use the pillow to position yourself so you are able to thrust down directly into her ‘orgasm zone.’ If you can last at least five minutes with this position you are sure as a husband to give your wife an orgasm. And the moment a wife of any age, shape or race can achieve orgasm, she will be ready for sex at any given time regardless of the fact that she is circumcised, old, pregnant or breastfeeding. This position has proven to heal many drifted apart couples like magic. Remember if you are doing it right, your head as the husband should be right above hers, putting you in the perfect position for some nice whispering and sexy talks. When you are ready to turn her around, make sure you wrap her legs around your neck, and you are putting your tongue to work, then reach up and play with her nipples, tease her with your tongue. Use your fingers to trace all over the inside of her thighs and near and around her vulva, you will notice she will be well lubricated. Many wives love a feel of their husband’s private part goes deep enough to their orgasm zone while the husband is thrusting each time. I am sure you know what to do right now as a couple. Well, husband, what are you waiting for? Go grab your wife and put to practice what you have just read; remember even if you have drifted apart for so long, this is an all-time tonic style. Try it RIGHT NOW!
Questions and Answers
My husband wants sex reward for everything
I think my sex drive is normal and I love having sex with my husband. But lately, I feel turned off because he seems to expect sex as a reward for everything. If he gives me money to fix my hair, if he spends time listening to my problems, if he takes me out to see my parents, he expects to be rewarded with sex. I hate feeling obligated. Do I owe my husband sex?
Mrs bolaji udoh
Married life works best when both partners focus on ways to express love and meet each other’s needs. It would be good for you to try to change the way you interpret his interest in sex. If your husband communicates his sexual desires in those terms, try to see his desire for frequent sex as an opportunity for you to show love. Of course, we hope your husband will start communicating his needs in a less demanding way, but you can still choose how you want to interpret those requests. Your husband may be trying to win your heart by performing acts of kindness and service and I personally think you should be happy because out there are countless of wives who would give anything to have what you want to trash away. I think this should be a fun experiment for you.
My wife makes me feel guilty about sex
My wife and I have sex regularly, but it’s always the same and I’m bored with it. The problem is when I try to spice things up, my wife becomes shy or embarrassed. Then I feel like a hunter ready to devour a prey, forcing changes where she doesn’t want them. I’ve heard that sex between married people should get better and better, but that’s not true for us. What can I do?
Mr Agonji Mufutau
Women prefer sameness and men prefer variation. That’s just part of the fascination and frustration of being male and female. Often for men, the fantasies about sexual variety are more exciting than the actual experience of some exotic position. For a woman, those experiments may feel aggressive because she’s uncertain how they’ll feel or how well she’ll perform. If you can talk to your wife about your feelings and listen to hers, it could lead to some helpful negotiation. Learning to adapt to each other’s wishes and needs is what marriage is all about. Being the one to “give in” or make changes is often hard, but it will improve your relationship. Marriage requires some give and take from both partners.
Her neatness affects our sex
When I got married six years ago, I was glad to see that my wife likes things orderly. She is much neater than I am which is great. But her desire for cleanliness has its downside when it comes to sex. Even though I shower and shave beforehand, the smells and fluids associated with intercourse bother her so much that we have rarely had sex for more than two years now. Instead, I am now having sex with her best friend. I know it is wrong but her friend doesn’t reject me like she does.
Tyron Miliokm
Share with your wife your concern for her total sexual enjoyment as well as your desire for the closeness that genital sexual union provides. Taking to adultery few years into your marriage will not help. There may seem to be some question about your wife’s desire for sexual play and orgasmic release that you may need to know. If it is simply the messiness of ejaculation that’s bothering her, then try using a condom or have intercourse in the shower. Keep in mind that sex for her isn’t just sex—as it may be for you. Women tend to express their sexuality as inseparable from their feelings and relationship desires.
As newly married virgins, our sex life is zero
My husband and I have been married for three months. On our honeymoon, my husband got a bad chest cold; the honeymoon wasn’t what I had been waiting for all those years. Both my husband and I were virgins when we married and I thought that our sex life would be exciting and unstoppable once he felt better. Now, three months later, I am the one who makes the move to get intimate. It doesn’t seem to bother him. He used to fast and pray a lot while single to keep the sexual thoughts away. Now that he is married, he is still in that mode; he can’t seem to come out of that. My question is, how am I sure he is not lying to me? Can one fast and pray to the extent that he will not have any sexual feeling in this our time and age?
Frustrated new wife
Human level of sexual drive varies. Just as most men have a higher desire for sexual play and intercourse and most women less interest, individual differences may reverse this usual pattern.
Each of you should explore openly and honestly your deepest attitudes about sex. How did you learn about sex and what were your earliest sexual experiences? What were the constraints that helped you maintain your virginity? Are there expectations about sexual “performance” that present anxiety when you approach sexual interaction? Understanding yourselves and each other may help you find a more agreeable level of interaction. I’d also like to emphasise the delightful journey toward marital oneness. I fully understand how long three months of newly wedded sexuality may seem, but I want to encourage you to be patient. If, in fact, prior to marriage your husband had been fasting and praying to reduce his sexual thoughts and drive, it may take some time for those patterns of denial to diminish. Your patient acceptance of his sexuality can help him overcome those old inhibitions. Affirm and reward his interest and continue to invite him gently whenever you want.ated new wife
Human level of sexual drive varies. Just as most men have a higher desire for sexual play and intercourse and most women less interest, individual differences may reverse this usual pattern.
Each of you should explore openly and honestly your deepest attitudes about sex. How did you learn about sex and what were your earliest sexual experiences? What were the constraints that helped you maintain your virginity? Are there expectations about sexual “performance” that present anxiety when you approach sexual interaction? Understanding yourselves and each other may help you find a more agreeable level of interaction. I’d also like to emphasise the delightful journey toward marital oneness. I fully understand how long three months of newly wedded sexuality may seem, but I want to encourage you to be patient. If, in fact, prior to marriage your husband had been fasting and praying to reduce his sexual thoughts and drive, it may take some time for those patterns of denial to diminish. Your patient acceptance of his sexuality can help him overcome those old inhibitions. Affirm and reward his interest and continue to invite him gently whenever you want.
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