WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE

1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and
she never asked you if you’re saving or investing,
and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry
her.
2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you,
some could be a good mother to your children but
if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your
children and your family, please don’t let her go.
3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to
the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in
our days, we had farm-lands where they worked
every morning . . . that was our office.
4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the
house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will
see a smile on your wife’s face.
5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your
wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult
for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home
needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she
will keep you asking even when all has been spent.
6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in
her body is nothing to be compared to the wound
on her heart and that means you may be in trouble
living with a wounded woman.
7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a
bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be
single again.
8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and
many children because of our large farm-lands and
many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming
anymore, so embrace your woman closely.
9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your
mother could be your eateries and restaurants of
nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did
there was to embrace each other.
10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start
making more money, instead of spending on those
tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to
get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all
along.
11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at
the window of your mother father’s house, to call
her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed
her so much.
12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has
changed, there could be something you’ve stopped
doing too.
13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle
with me before I bought that tortoise car outside
there, any woman that won’t endure with you in
your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.
14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman,
there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she
ever compared you to any man?
15. My son, there is this thing you people call
feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right
with you in the house, divide all the bills into two
equal parts, take one part and ask her to start
paying the other part.
16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took
more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife
a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is
that our women had prestige.
17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school
because I was foolish like many to think a female
child won’t extend my family name, please don’t
make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I
see nowadays has made the male-gender an
ordinary tag.
18. My son, your mother have once locked up the
cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she
was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her
because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to
tell you that I never for once beat your mother.
19. My son, in our days, our women had more of
natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some
had minor painting of their appellation mostly on
their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but
don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their
body like your women of nowadays.
20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in
what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues
without always coming to us.
21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first
sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her
dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.
22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your
mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having
children to take care of you too.
23. My son, pray with your family, there is a
tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows
everything, everyday.